Five Ways to Connect to the Divine and Find Clarity
First and foremost, the best piece of advice you can apply to indecision is this: If you’re not sure what to do, do nothing.
By JEANNIE SHAW
If You’re Not Sure What To Do, Do Nothing
Ever have those moments where you find yourself in a dilemma and you don’t know which way to turn? And I’m not talking about those decisions that you must make in the spur of moment for reasons of health or safety. I’m talking about regular “I need a minute to think” decisions. Those moments where you need clarity.
First and foremost, the best piece of advice you can apply to indecision is this: If you’re not sure what to do, do nothing.
Oftentimes, we face a situation and we figure if we just sit and think about it repeatedly, muling over it time and time again that we’ll find the solution. So, we might say “I’ll have to think this through.” “I’ll have to ponder on it.” “I’ll have to really give this some thought.”
More often than not, the answer will come to you much faster if you actually just leave it alone. Even if you were trying to solve a puzzle, fix a mechanical problem, even a design issue, the best thing you can do is step away from it. This is something my brother enlightened me to years ago. As he would see my increasing frustration over a design I would be working on, he’d tell me, “Walk away and come back.” And it always worked and still does to this day. Over time, I’ve learned that this method could work for so many other life situations.
“If you’re not sure what to do, do nothing.”
5 Ways to Help You Through a Moment of Indecision
So when it feels like you’re stuck trying to figure the “right thing to do”, “which way to go”, “if your’e in or out” etc. just breathe and choose one of the following steps to help you along your journey.
1. TAKE A WALK
Put your comfiest shoes on and take a walk outside. Focus on nature, the birds, the trees, flowers, the wind on your skin, how the sun flirts through the leaves etc. Completely distract yourself with nature.
What this does is shift your focus.
Most likely, somewhere in that walk, you will have made space for a download and clarity will find you. You may find yourself doing something completely random afterwards and the answer is clear and you know what to do. And even if you don’t know the full answer or decision, you might at least have opened the door to the next step. Then, the next step… and so on.
“Completely distract yourself with nature.“
2. MEDITATE
Meditation gives you the opportunity to step away from all thoughts – even the ones that would be sparked on your walks. While taking a walk outside and shifting your focus to nature distracts you from the situation, meditation leads you down the path of “no thoughts.”
The end result will likely be the same. Maybe in the moment where you actually find that empty blank slate, a remedy is downloaded. When you come out from your meditation, just continue on your day. Again, at some point, you’ll receive a clear knowing on what to do, or at the very least, the next step. Meditation and sleep are two of the best opportunities to receive downloads and guidance.
If you want to know more about meditation and how to do it, click here.
3. WRITE IT DOWN
Get a blank piece of paper and write down what the issue is.
For example
“Should I Get New Furniture Now or Wait til Next Year”
They could include why you want new furniture and why you want it now rather than later. Be as thorough as you need to be on certain points and as simple as you can be on other points.
Once you’re done, place your left hand over your list and your right hand over your heart. And, say…
“For the good of all and with harm to none, I release this list to the greater understanding of all that is. I await, with great expectancy, the clear and true path for me to follow. I will know over the next few days to come what the best decision is for me. With gratitude and love, I am in tuned with the best possible version of everything.“
This is a very general approach, you could always include Dear God, Dear Jesus, Grand Universe, Source… and also reword it with whatever resonates with you.
You may also find your answer while writing the list and when you’re done, you know exactly what to do.
4. PHONE A FRIEND
You’ll want to reach out to a friend who is a great listener. The solution you’re seeking is your own, not theirs. Tell your friend beforehand that you mostly just need a listening ear.
If it’s someone who generally has very objective insight or maybe has a lot of experience in your area of troubles, you could also give them an opportunity to offer 3 pieces feedback once you’re done venting.
Once you’ve shared all you want to share and listened to their feedback if that’s the route you chose, express gratitude to your friend and breathe. Once the conversation has ended, say out loud…God, I can’t see the solution yet but I know you are the ultimate source to everything. I know that you hear my words and will make the answers clear to me.
Distract yourself, find something else to do and wait. Again, the answer will likely come to you either right in that conversation or a short time after. Just about every answer we seek lies dormant within us until it is awoken.
5. DO AN OFFERING
The first time I heard about offerings was in church. I was often bored so much of what was said remains a blur. By the time I’d heard of offerings again, a few decades had passed. A dear friend of mine introduced it to me as a way to connect to God. This included prayer, incense, wearing a veil etc. Once she introduced me to it, I found my own way in doing offerings that felt good to me.
That was in November of 2018.
Earlier this year, 2020, just a few short months ago, I heard about offerings again from Tosha Silver’s book Outrageous Openness. Tosha teaches that you can simply offer up cleaning a drawer to the divine for the answers you seek. You can even offer up a work out, your next breath, food you eat… anything. It can be as minute as it can be grand.
Let’s use the drawer cleaning as an example. You can choose a drawer you’re going to clean and organize. Ask God’s guidance on the situation at hand. You can simply state out loud before you begin.
“For the good of all and with harm to none, I clean and organize this drawer as an offering to the divine. May it acceptable to you. I am seeking clarity on [insert situation] and with each moment of cleaning and organizing that I do, I know that it creates new space for new thoughts and new solutions. Clarity will seek me out and I will know what to do you. In God’s holy name I pray. Thank you.“
