I’ve read that you keep reliving the same situation until you learn the lesson. This makes me wonder if I’m even paying attention in “life class.” Some situations keep presenting themselves over and over again. Two issues (of many more) that plague me are ‘speaking up’ and ‘trying to please everyone.’ Now that I write it, I’m pretty sure they go hand in hand. Always open to learning, I recently gave these two issues a lot of thought. A conversation brought me to a Bible verse that stays with me now. YOU CAN’T SERVE TWO MASTERS, advice from a sister. #LifeTips
Matthew 6:24 “No one can serve two masters, for either he will hate the one and love the other; or else he will be devoted to one and despise the other. You can’t serve both God and Mammon.”
My dad, who was an atheist, knew the bible inside out. He always told me people took the Bible too literally. I don’t know much about the Bible but if we dissect this specific verse, minus the literal meaning, the lesson is priceless. YOU CAN’T SERVE TWO MASTERS.
We are all connected
Things that affect you will inevitably affect those closest to you. We are all connected and its even more prevalent when we’re “connected” if you know what I mean. My friend/sister and I were in one of our many deep conversations – decades in the making. We grew up together. We are very open even if we feel vulnerable admitting certain things. I was going on and on about the things I was dealing with two weeks prior to our conversation and we were discussing how these events had also affected my loved ones.
Some were understanding and patient. Some were hanging by a thread haha. I found myself feeling pressured to be ok. It might have been all in my head but it’s how I felt nonetheless. I felt pressured to stick to plans or to be there when needed for things a lot less prevalent than what I was dealing with. As I shared how overwhelmed I felt, my “sister” firmly said to me, “Sis, you can’t serve two masters.” Punto Final.
A philosophy that works
She reminded me that I can only do so much and how I needed to prioritize according to my truth. I needed to weigh out the needs of everyone, what was important and what I can realistically deliver. The pressure was too much and I was losing grip. It’s something I’ve had to ask myself over and over again when I feel pressured to be all I’m needed to be. I’ve tried to find the balance so that my closest loves are not disappointed especially when they have always been there for me. It’s a tricky medium to navigate when you’re engaging with people more priceless than “vibranium.”
The last thing you want to do is let them down.
Slowly I started to see that this philosophy could roll over to many areas of my life – even cleaning the kitchen. You can choose to surrender to the fact that it’s dirty, take your time and get it done in peace. Or, you can clean hastily and be upset while making yourself miserable. Speaking for a friend. 🙂 It all reminds me of the teachings of Dandapani who talks a lot about the power of focus. You can click here to understand more.
YOU CAN’T SERVE TWO MASTERS
It’s about making a choice about what or who to surrender to and choosing only one in a given moment. In the next moment, you are free to make a different choice and “serve a different master” so to speak. It has been challenging in some ways as I felt disappointment wreak havoc on some people closest to me. The advice of my sister stuck with me though. You can’t serve two masters. I had to find what made things manageable for me and trust that those closest to me would want what’s best for me. It didn’t matter if they would do things differently or not. What mattered was my peace of mind, especially considering the circumstances.
I’ve been blessed with circles of amazing people in my life, time and time again. It’s quite a disheartening feeling to disappoint them. Learning to find the balance between loving everyone and loving me is quite the task.
Sometimes we want to be everything to everyone but we can’t. It’s something I still have to constantly remind myself of. Once it’s not a life threatening situation or dyer need of someone I love or care about, the question I ask myself is: What will make this easier for you? What will make this manageable for you?
Whatever the answer is, I follow that. Well, I try to.
Life is filled with lessons. I’m open to learning and growing. I hope you are too.
You can’t serve two masters.
Choose one thing at a time, apply focus and move on to the next.
Do things slowly and meaningfully and be fully present.
Can you relate to her advice?